Tennessee residents like you want the best for your child no matter what your situation is. Even in the midst of a divorce, you want to prioritize their well-being and safety. One of the best ways to ensure this is to start off on a solid foot.
You can do this by telling your child about the upcoming divorce. But is there a right way to do this? A right time? Are there any pitfalls you should work to avoid?
Do not wait to break the news
Psychology Today talks about ways to break the news of divorce to your child. First, break free from the notion that you should wait to tell them. The sooner you tell them, the more time they have to process the situation. If you tell them shortly before the divorce, they have no time to adjust. It may also feel more like a “betrayal”. At the very least, the unpleasantness of this surprise will affect them more.
Work with your co-parent
After that, it is important to work together with your co-parent. Get on the same page. Know what to avoid when discussing matters of divorce. Decide in advance what topics are off-limits and how you want to explain more complex matters.
It is also crucial to show your child the best side of yourselves. This means no arguing in front of them. If you can help it, do not discuss things with them shortly after an argument, either. You will feel more inclined to snap at each other and your child may pick up on the hidden tension. They could self-blame and feel guilt, which is the last thing you want.
